What’s the secret to getting through the holidays with less stress? Be prepared. Be flexible. And follow our tips for holiday success with less stress .
Planning the perfect holiday this year? Gingerbread baking in the oven, a spotless house with beautiful seasonal décor in each room, and of course, a happy family clean and dressed in all their finery for a home-cooked feast.
And then you wake up. The reality is that the holidays can be one of the most stressful times of the year. Many people put unrealistic expectations on themselves and their families. Even some people who normally are more laid back become seasonal perfectionists, caught up in the demands of giving and entertaining.
When you add tensions from spending time with relatives you don’t normally see, it can be a recipe for holiday STRESS, not holiday fun.
Nobody’s perfect. And those who try to be not only set themselves up to fail, but they also may be setting themselves up for emotional and physical difficulties. Placing impossibly high demands on yourself or others creates stress.
Research suggests that this type of stress can trigger depression and self-destructive behaviors, perhaps even suicide. Perfectionism also has been linked to migraines, insomnia, anxiety and sexual dysfunction.
While it’s OK to want to succeed, setting unrealistic goals can lead to severe self-criticism. Sometimes, perfectionists have unreasonable expectations for others, too. So they’re constantly disappointed when friends, family and coworkers fall short.
Common traits of perfectionism include:
If you recognize a tendency toward perfectionism in yourself, ask yourself whether this trait is causing you stress. When perfectionism keeps you from succeeding or feeling satisfied, or causes friction in relationships, it’s a problem.
Here are some ways to help you keep perfectionism in check:
How will you keep your cool this winter? Tell us about your stress-busting techniques in the comments!
Sources: Mayo Clinic, 2014; Martha Stewart Living; The American Heart Association, 2014
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