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“As I walked out the door toward the gate that would lead to my freedom, I knew if I didn't leave my bitterness and hatred behind, I'd still be in prison.” ¯ Nelson Mandela

Forgiveness is a solution for transforming your anger. It's liberating! It frees you from the trap of revenge and allows you to find joy. Forgiveness is a gift you give to yourself because it lets you move forward. It doesn't always dissolve the anger but it does give you the freedom of knowing you are so much more.

Writing the Letter
Writing a forgiveness letter helps you heal from emotional pain. It helps you connect to your feeling and provides an outlet for expressing those feelings. You can write the letter on your own or with the help of a counselor or trusted friend. This letter is for you! You can write it however you like. But the point of doing this is:

• Address the person who harmed you
• Share your story...how were you impacted by this?
• Share what you've learned from the experience. How have you grown?
• Describe how it has made you stronger.

Here are some tips to get you started.

Dear __________: I forgive you because..."

• Who do you want to forgive?
• What are the reasons you want to forgive?
• What personal strengths do you have that will help you forgive?
• Share how you have been affected by holding on to this anger.
• Share how you will feel and what benefits you will get once you choose to forgive
• Outline the steps will you take to move forward.

Most recent update: 10/25/2017.V.2