Look around and you’re bound to see a lot of caregivers. In the U.S., one in three adults care for others. They may be caring for elderly parents, a sick spouse or disabled child.

Being a caregiver can be stressful and demanding. It often leads to caregiver burnout — a feeling of mental, physical and emotional exhaustion. Poor health, depression and anxiety are all symptoms of burnout. To cope with the pressures, caregivers may turn to smoking, alcohol or other unhealthy behaviors.

Watch for Signs

Learn the warning signs of caregiver burnout. The Cleveland Clinic  says signs may include:

• Anxiety
• Depression
• Getting sick more often
• Changes in sleep patterns
• Exhaustion
• Feeling irritated or moody
• Changes in appetite, weight or both
• Denial about their loved one’s health problem
• Anger or frustration toward the person in their care
• Social withdrawal from people and activities
• Thoughts about self-harm or harming the person in their care

Self Care

If you suffer from burnout, find ways to care for yourself. Here are a few ways you can stay healthy:

• Accept help. List ways others can lighten your work load. Helpers can choose what they would like to do. They might volunteer to pick up groceries or take your loved one for a walk.
• Be kind to yourself. It's normal to feel guilty sometimes. No one is a "perfect" caregiver. Believe that you are doing the best you can at any given time.
• Cope with negative feelings. It’s normal to feel upset or angry about your duties or with your loved one. It does not mean you are a bad person.
• Set realistic goals. Break large tasks into smaller steps. Say no to requests that are draining, such as hosting holiday meals.
• Connect with resources. Find out about caregiving support in your community. Transportation, meal delivery or housekeeping services can help.
• Seek social support. Find someone you trust and can talk with about your feelings and frustrations. Set aside time each week for connecting.
• Join a caregiver support group. Sharing your feelings and experiences with others in the same situation can help you handle stress. With support, you may feel less lonely. There’s even a free Caregiver Help Desk.
• Be realistic about your loved one's disease. Know that there may come a time when your loved one needs nursing services or assisted living outside the family home. The Family Caregiving Alliance  encourages reaching out to others in similar roles.
• Talk to a professional. Most therapists, social workers and clergy members are trained to counsel people dealing with a wide range of physical and emotional issues.
• Nurture your own health. AARP suggests  a good sleep routine, physical activity most days of the week, and fueling your body with a healthy diet.
• Take advantage of respite care. Respite care steps in to give regular care givers breaks. It can range from a few hours of in-home care to a short stay in a nursing facility. You can find help at National Respite Locator.

If you need any more help (such as finding a provider), please call us at the number on your BCBSIL member ID card. We are here to help.

Sources: Caregiver Stress, Tips for Taking Care of Yourself,  Mayo Clinic, 2023; Caregiver Burnout, Steps for Coping with Stress,  AARP, 2023: Caregiver Burnout,  Cleveland Clinic, 2023; Caregiver Help Desk,  Caregiver Action Network, 2024; Resources by Health Issue or Condition,  Family Caregiver Alliance

Originally published 5/5/2020; Revised 2022, 2024